In a recent interview, Adele Puccio revealed that there are 20 vintage dresses in the library that brides can try on and rent for their special day. The gowns are all collected from second-hand stores or recycling organizations.

Brides in New Jersey don’t even need a library card to borrow a dress. All they have to do is choose a gown and tell the director what they need it for. Puccio is also kind enough to offer vintage frocks suitable for any body type and style preference.

At the library, you can find only some of the wedding dresses, while the rest of the models can be seen at Adele’s home in Bayonne. To let more women know about her idea, Puccio has created a Facebook group called “Shared Dream Dresses.” The page has over 20,000 followers, and women can join for free. The only condition is to respect the sentimental value of the dress and return it in perfect condition.

Puccio made her idea come to life in 2000 and has been helping brides ever since. At the time, she even hosted a special event called “Salute to Brides” where she displayed wedding gowns and accessories throughout history for people to see. Inspired by Adele’s passion, library staff and members donated wedding dresses designed in different decades of the 20th century. The collection was called “Brides of the Century.”

Dr. Sage, a psychologist on TikTok is making people aware of a new term for parents – eggshell parenting. This kind of parenting puts the children in constant hypervigilance – they don’t know how a parent will react from one moment to another. While TikTok might not be the most legitimate platform to get advice from, it’s still good to be aware of particular terms, identify the signs, and even know how to work on yourself so there is no extra strain on you or your child.

Anna Hindell, a psychologist, explains that the terms popularized by Dr. Sage come from the phrase ‘walking on eggshells.’ When you’re the kind of parent that displays constant outbursts and unstable moods, it causes your children to walk on eggshells – never knowing what the reaction will be. It all comes down to unpredictability. It’s hard on the child if one moment you’re calm and the next, your mood switched unexpectedly to the worst.

The way of ‘gentle parenting’ is gaining more and more popularity among parents because it avoids constant outbursts. However, no parent is perfect, and it’s normal to lose your cool and raise your voice or get angry sometimes. But that’s not eggshell parenting, that’s just occasional rage. When a parent goes into rage mode, the child must be informed afterward, and an apology must be given to the child so they know they didn’t do anything wrong and it was just about the nerves and frustration of the parents themselves.

Although many parents might not realize the consequences of eggshell parenting have devastating effects on the child in the long run, it’s known to cause anxiety, depression, and unstable moods. Children grow up mimicking their parents and what they see is what they’ll do. So, if you’re constantly on edge and unpredictable, it will reflect on the child later.

There is a way to break the cycle of eggshell parenting, says board-certified child, adolescent, and adult psychiatrist Dr. Khan.

• Self-Awareness: Realize when you’re about to lose it and display a negative kind of parenting, and learn the signs to avoid it in the future.
• Repair the Conflict: Having a conversation with this kind of ‘walking on eggshells’ parent can repair their mood swings. It may be difficult, but it has to be done to break the cycle.
• Seek Professional Help: Sometimes, trying to repair the mood yourself might not be enough. You could try talking to a professional to learn the correct steps to take in terrible situations to avoid stressing yourself – and your child – out.